Primi Piatti Nipples
So the
stage is set. You’ve got the guy, and you’ve got the goods. Now you’re
ready to dig into the first course of a memorable five-star meal.
Recently, a
friend of ours announced he was taking a leave from his job and was moving to
Spain to be with his paramour. When we asked why, he said because the sex was
like nothing he had ever experienced. This new love kept him hot, and hard,
all the time. After he caught us eagerly eyeing his zipper to see if this was
true, we quizzed him to find out what was so special. Was it the technique?
Did they do it five times a day? Did he something we didn’t know? The
secret, according to our friend, was that his knowledgeable girlfriend
cleverly controlled the whens, wheres and whats of their fooling around. Our
friend never knew what to expect – and he loved it!
Decent men
don’t think about which partner is taking the lead all that much. It just
kind of happens. Take a lesson from us: If you want to win in Wimbledon,
you’ve got to open with a great serve. Don’t be afraid to start the set.
If you’re worried that he’ll think you’re an overanxious amazon, just
remember that many men fantasize about being tied up by buxom Barbarellas from
Deep Space Nine. Our informal poll of men and women tells us that guys love to
have their partners orchestrate; probably more often then you think. The
notion of him lying back with someone else calling the shots – and doing
most of the work – is pretty appealing. You already know the surefire
signal: “Just Grab It”. This chapter will give you
many tips on how to keep the ball rolling.
Lip Tips
We all know
good kissers and bad kissers, so what makes a great kiss? Loose lips, open
mouth, and open attitude. The fact that you’re reading this book means
you’ve got an open attitude – or are pretty darn close. But there are
other places you can kiss him that will rev up his engine. He’ll think
you’ve been training for the Indy 500 and, with these tips, you’re sure to
scoop the checkered flag.
After a
long, lovely series of kisses on the mouth, it’s time to heat things up and
head south. Kisses on the neck are nice, but it’s you tongue that will put
him into high gear. Light licks and soft breathing into his ear will send
shivers down his spine. Move lower to the most sensitive spot on his neck and
throat, which is along the line where his whiskers vanish. Using the flat part
of your tongue, and a firm pressure, lick up and down along that line. If
he’s too ticklish, lighten up and move on to other parts.
Another
good spot is the curve where his neck meets his shoulder. In general, almost
any kind of tongue touches in this area will rock the racket. Keep heading
south to his underarms. If his hands are clasped behind his neck, you’ve got
an open invitation. If not, deftly take hold of his wrist and move his arm up
above his head. The underarm area is where men go to town. One reader of us
said that while she loved to give blowjobs, there was no way she was sticking
her face under some guys arm. We agree that a mouthful of Arid Extra Dry is a
lousy way to stick to your Weight Watchers plan, which is why the pre-sex
shower is a must.
There are
two areas to approach. Start by licking the super smooth spot directly below
the hair under his arms for a while, and then go right to the center of his
underarm. Use your lips and gums to massage him, moving from section to
section. Another sexy spot is along the inside of his arm, in between the
biceps and triceps. The skin in these areas tends to be very soft and, often,
neglected.
When
you’re bored with his armpits, keep licking and mouthing your way down to
another area that’s often overlooked: his inner thighs. Slide down and shift
positions so that your legs are hanging over the side of the bed and your head
is in between his legs. You may already have noticed that many men have a
little bald spot on their inner thighs. We don’t know if this is a generic
quirk or the result of too-tight jeans, but it’s certainly a great place to
play around in. Use the same mouth motion you used under his arms. Start with
the bald spot and work your way to the line where his torso meets his leg. Say
hi to Mr. Stiffy so he won’t feel left out. A soft stroke with your hand
will let him know that you’ll be back later to take good care of him.
A versatile guide to nipples
We already
mentioned how some of our readers were amazed to learn that men have feelings
in their nipples. To some guys, this is a big nothing. But to others, theses
petite protrusions are two major points on the playing field. Our polls show a
fifty-fifty split: Fifty per cent say “don’t bother” and fifty per cent
are nipple queens.
The only
way to find out if a guy’s nipples are in the hot zone is to test the
waters. Lazy licking is pretty boring, but he might like the sensation of
bites, tugs or tweaks. We tell you everything you always wanted to know about
nipples but were afraid to ask:
The first
thing you’ll want to do is prime pecs. If your gentleman du jour has been
working out, he’ll have hight-pecs inward to send the sensation toward the
nipple. He’ll also like the fact that you’ve noticed all his hard work at
the gym. You want to get the nipples to the point where it’s almost begging
for attention, because when you finally touch it, it will be supersensitive.
Once
you’ve primed the pecs, use your tongue and try licking and flicking. Then
softly blow some air on the nipple. The sensation of cool air on the moist
nipple should wow him with waves of pleasure. Stay with this for about twenty
seconds – no more. Proceed to nibbling just the nipple with your lips
covering your teeth, and then take the entire pink part into your mouth and do
the same. Again, another twenty seconds for this is plenty.
Now try the
same routine with your teeth. A word of caution here: Start with gentle bites,
not chews. If he likes this – and you should just ask him – increase the
pressure. Some guys like a really strong grip, and others find that it hurts.
Don’t get carried away as if you were munching on macadamia nuts. Use front
teeth only, and stop if he says “ouch.” Another approach is to use your
tongue and your teeth together. Place your two front teeth over the top of the
nipple as you massage it from the underside with your tongue.
Next, try
tugging on his nipples, one at the time, and then both together. By this we
don’t mean yanking on them like you were trying to grab the ring on a
carousel, but rather giving him a series of sensual squeezes. Grasp the nipple
tips with the ball of your thumb and the side of your forefinger, and tug
slightly away from his body. Alternate back and forth, between your right and
left hands, sort of like milking a cow. If he seems to like it, add a little
tweak and twisting action to your tug, continuing to pull the nipple tips away
from his body. Most guys love it. Men think it’s like opening a safe,
milking a cow, and pulling taffy at the same time.
A word on
grips: Light as a feather does nothing here. If a guy’s nipples are
sensitive, he wants to feel what you’re doing. Start gently, check his face
to gauge his reaction, and then try a little harder. Some guys like a death
grip on their nipples; for them, you might consider shopping around for
nipples clamps, or asking your dentist for a pair of bib
clips the next time you get your teeth cleaned. One last nipple tip: An ice
cube from your handy glass of water on the nightstand can also make his tips
tingle.
A friend in kneads is a friend indeed
Everyone
likes a good massage, whether manual or mechanical. After a hard workout at
the gym, your buoyant beau will relish a sensual stroking on his neck, chest,
arms, back and legs. Mix up your massages with a gentle back scratching. We
already told you to be careful not to pinch and pull hair, especially if he
looks like Curious George in the buff. You may not know this, but most men
really like a vigorous head massage. You’d kill him if he messed up your hot
new hairdo, but he probably won’t care – unless he’s on Rogaine. Start
at the temples and work your way back above the ears, using a firm pressure
with your fingertips.
Assuming
he’d facedown, move your hands toward his neck and shoulders; use just your
thumbs lightly on his neck, and then a firmer grip on that often-tense area
between his neck and shoulders. Use your whole hand to knead the muscles,
adding some extra pressure from your thumbs. Don’t do this for too long or
he may end up snoring before Mr. Stiffy goes soaring. While massaging his
back, concentrate on the muscles that run along the sides of his spine. Never
press on the spine itself.
Keep
working your way down until you encounter the glorious globes of his gluteus
maximus. An Argentine acquaintance tells us that the bottom burnishing is big
in Buenos Aires; it may even be more popular than soccer. Start by pressing
your thumbs into the epicenter of each buttock. Using a pretty forceful
pressure, rotate your thumbs while you squeeze the rest of the buttock with
your fingers. Whether your grip is strong from carrying grocery bags or
Bergdorf bags, don’t be afraid to show your strength.
