Who will have sex first?
- The Winner
Here is the winner of
this month' scenario:
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The Winner is
JEFFERY LINDENMUTH
Serving as our expert judge is Susan Rabin, author of 101 Ways to Flirt. Here's how she rated the come-on strategies
of each contestant:
LINDENMUTH
What he did right: was polite and gentlemanly; used Tanya's name (very important); opening line makes him appear
considerate (women like that); expressed honest interest in her. What he did wrong: too much eye contact may make her feel uncomfortable (he may be a
stalker — or worse, an optometrist); a big smile is better than an inquisitive one (show teeth); admitting he drinks for a living is risky
since he doesn't know how she feels about alcohol. She could be a teetotaler or a recovering drunk.
What he could have done
better: "Hi. I ate those crab thingies over there, and I think they had garlic in them. I
don't want to offend anyone...." This shows that he's considerate and vulnerable, a trait combination women find
irresistible — which, of course, they later regret.
STARNER
What he did right: introductory handshake. A professional one tells a woman she's your equal, which makes her feel
better about all the cash she spent on the MBA.
What he did wrong:
Tried too hard to be funny, which resulted in a weak joke she probably didn't understand; moved
too fast (inviting her out in his follow-up); asked too many questions. Who does he work for? The Census Bureau?
What he could have done
better: He needs to be himself, to stop overcompensating for his shyness; his emergency
maneuver should have been his opening line (it's that vulnerability thing).
DANISH
What he did right:
Respected her space (an arm's length); didn't tell her how beautiful she was. Attractive people
get tired of that, trust us; better to compliment something she's done.
What he did wrong:
Self-centered opening line (dropping the last five words from "Are you enjoying the conference as
much as I am?" shifts the focus from him to her); complete agreement with whatever she said (women loathe phonies;
effective flirting is sincere); asked her to leave in the middle of a seminar she was enjoying (that's arrogant and
rude--next time, pull the fire alarm)
What he could have done
better:
Keep the ring on and phone his wife. And don't be surprised if a man answers the
phone.
5 LINES THEY COULD HAVE USED
1. During the seminar, slip her one of your business cards with this note scribbled on the back: "It's difficult to
meet anyone in a place like this, but I'd really like to meet you." Don't sign with a smiley face.
2. "I'm a stranger in town. Could you recommend a restaurant?" Even if she's a stranger, too, you'll have something
in common. If she lives nearby, then she'll be happy to name names and give you directions, and perhaps a foot
massage later. (Okay, we're exaggerating.)
3. Fumble with an odd-looking utensil at the refreshment table and ask, "Do you know how this thing works?"
(Vulnerability again.) This won't work with a fork.
4. "What a great tattoo. I bet there's a story behind it." This also works with jewelry or anything else unusual that
she's wearing or carrying. "Is that a birthmark?" will only get you into trouble.
5. "I was really interested in [name a particular part of the lecture], but I missed some of it. I noticed you were
taking notes. Could I look at them?" If you find doodles of monkeys riding rocket ships, you're in.
