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Fear
of rejection - how to cope with it ...
You can’t live your whole life in fear of rejection. You have to
jump over the wall sometime, and you may as well recognize that fact, unless
you want to be alone. If you really are frightened and cannot jump over the
wall and meet people and start to enjoy normal sexual relations with a man,
then you must seek and find appropriate help. There are many organizations
that are designed to help women overcome fears of rejection.
They
can be found in every community, on the Net, in the yellow pages and in
Local Newspapers. You have to join these encounter Groups and get out there
and make an effort to combat those stifling social traps. Never believe you
are the only one who has any fear. There is always another one who has the
same problem.
LADIES,
PLEASE BE REASSURED THAT THERE REALLY IS NO PROBLEM BIG ENOUGH THAT IT
CANNOT FIND SOME SOLUTION.
Fear
of rejection is a wicked one because it can keep us alone. And this is
something that can be helped.
LOOKING FOR LOVE
Unless
we have just got over a ghastly divorce and we are not ready, all of us,
whether we want to admit it to ourselves or to each other are looking for
love. Even in the most casual sexual flirtation, there is always that little
voice whispering at the back of your mind, “could this man be the one for
me?” Could he be Mr. Right?
Could
he be my husband? Once you have shagged him, that feeling could grow more
intense. There is nothing wrong with that. It’s genetically hard wired. We
are always after Mr. Right. Mr. Permanent. Mr. Provider. We can’t help it.
Its part of the Womanly condition and so it should be. Get comfortable with
it. That is a condition that is unlikely to ever change. But men
don’t think that whenever they shag a woman. Most women think they think
as they do. Looking for Mrs. Right. He might be. But don’t count on it. He
is most likely looking for another notch on his belt. He is most likely
looking for a shag. Remember what I told you about the ram in a field full
of sheep. He will shag the lot until he drops.
If
you are the perfect fit, he might want to keep coming back for more. But
don’t get all upset and hurt if he is into shagging you and then moving
on. There is the risk. Sure, if you shag him half a dozen times you have
every right to think there is something going on, a relationship. But it
isn’t a good idea to start saving for your bottom drawer or looking
meaningfully in Jewelry shop windows at the ring department. You start that
too early in the game and even Mr. Right will get the message and may beat a
hasty retreat. If he is into you and wants you he will let you know it. If
you want him, that is. Here’s a really refreshing little tip for you.
There is no such thing as lust. It is all love in his mind. It might be
short lived, but it is love all the same. Long-range love is a different
matter.
The
quality of your sex life might be the determining factor.
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