The
usual banter that passes between men and women is good fun but
misunderstandings can arise. How many times have you said NO to a man and
really meant yes. Then when he thinks you mean no and leaves you think,
what’s wrong? You sent a negative word mixed in with a positive vibration.
It’s called a mixed message.
A
sort of lie. Who lost? You did. And he did. It is in our nature to give a
man the run around just a bit so that we don't come over as a total slut. He
needs to hear you say NO a couple of times before you allow yourself to be
"persuaded" to let him fuck you. Sometimes the more shy or scared
types of men haven't worked out that our No's mean...Yes, later, keep asking
me and I will say yes and then you can fuck me.
They
think in other words that no is no. When we really are not interested we
usually don't say No to a guy, we say, look, fuck off. That is NO, that
means no, and he knows it means No, but just a No means yes. My advice is
not to use No at all if you really mean yes. Better to look a bit shy and
flutter our eye lids and say "what?" instead and get him to repeat
it ... and then say "you’re being a bit cheeky with me sailor ...
sort of egg on him on ... get him to keep talking on that level ... until he
gets the message that you really do want him balling deep. If you push him
away he may get timid and think you mean fuck off. There are so many
potential lays that are lost because of the misuse of the word No. We are
such good liars, ladies, that we forget that they think we are telling the
truth. We are an eternal mystery to them. We have to be a little more
inviting and little bit more explicit to get the message over to the poor
dumb wanker.
If
you want him, the safest and surest way to get him without him thinking you
are a slut is to say so. You can try the direct approach. (Most men aren’t
master of the great metaphor, i.e. don’t take hints.) "Anytime
anywhere!" Go ahead, practice saying that in the mirror. "I want
to fuck you, you hunk" He would have to be a moron to misinterpret
that. But its not paying his intelligence any compliments either. And you
say that to an intelligent man, I mean a really intelligent man, and he
might think you are crazy. You have to get the feel of a situation. It’s a
question of sizing him up on more than one level. If he is awake and alive
and sensitive, you won’t have to say much. Eye contact will do the trick
and the subtlest little gestures get the message over nicely. If he is not
Mr. Super Subtle then: "When are you going t take me home then?"
try that with some types.
What
is he going to say? Tonight! Tomorrow night. You can always put him off a
day or two, just to let him know you are only a slut in bed, but otherwise
quite shy. But keep the appointment. Ladies have to wake up to the fact that
the only way to fulfill your sexual fantasies is to meet the man half way
and if he doesn't get the message then go more than half way. Break a few of
the stupid rules of protocol. Experiment a bit. Have a little courage. Just
remember, the girl is always holding the cards. She can always say fuck off.
But if she wants his cock up her vagina, she had better let him know it in
terms that can' be mistaken. Try saying yes if he comes onto you, make the
date, keep it. That is honest, it works and is refreshing. Yes, there are
intelligent, honest men out there, who wear the hearts on their sleeves, or
at least half up their sleeves where you can see where they are coming from.
Those types you can be open with.
