Learn the process that works for you. But don’t turn into a
matriarchal bitch and order him to follow your rules. That I am going to
make a Don’t Do Rule Number SIX because it’s really important we turn
the corner on that one. What you should remember here is that the process
involves your sexual partner too and on a first date what do you know about
each other’s process in bed? Zero. So stay aware and take mental notes
without blinding your emotions off. Feel, but think too. Before he goes down
on your sweet smelling pussy, you might have to take a shower before you
get into bed and let him feel confident about your vaginal cleanliness, and
even say to him, “my pussy is nice a squeaky clean and smelling of your
favorite fragrance darling”, just tell him in a polite way that he can
come to dinner in your lap with absolute confidence and make sure you are as
good as your word.
You might not get a
second chance unless he is the hairy forgiving type. Don’t count on that.
Before he goes down on you, his process might be that you will go down on
him first just to give his first taste of his own hard on for you. Re read
that. Everyone misses this.
His first hard on with
you.
No woman really cottons onto how important it is for a man to gain the
confidence with a new woman of his first hard on. Just like men are virgin
crazies, women have a thing about it too. Every woman is a virgin with every
new man she lets in, so every man’s first hard on with a woman is virgin
territory for him too. It’s a big turn on. First time in the secret
garden. He will know if he wants to fuck you hard, or if it’s a timid
little hard on, or if it’s a normal well practiced hard on, or if it’s a
helmet exploding hard on, a rock star blistering hard on, a battle cruiser
hard on. His Process is the point here. Be sensitive to his feelings about
his hard on. So here is a tip: Don’t be over relishing it, but if he sees
your mouth wet and slippery to gobble onto his helmet hungrily and with
obvious satisfaction, the timid little hard on will start to become an
Apollo rocket hard on.
Once he gets excited
by the idea that you can excite him, he may want to show you what he can do
with your clitoris. And he won’t be inclined to be selfish about it for
the very good reason that he is going to know early on that he is in for a
mind exploding blow job from you later on, and believe me, ladies, you will
want to give him that mind blowing blow job after your third orgasm out of
sheer gratitude.
A word on his
cleanliness. You don’t need to leave his cock to him there. You go to the
bathroom and if you haven’t been already necking and sleazy in the shower
with him, you give him a sensual cleansing helmet and balls and cock wash,
either in the shower or on the bed and you do it sexually. You can make that
part of your lovemaking and he won’t mind if he thinks you are going to
suck him off vigorously and with interest. If you do a bed wash, then play
the fantasy nurse. They all like that. Men are selfish bastards like that
and it is a good thing they are. It gives us women a chance to explore his
vital statistics at close range.
