Self-esteem
means taking care of yourself and taking care of how others feel as well ...
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Low
self-esteem is destroying your sex-life?
Self-esteem means feeling good about yourself, for all the right
reasons. It doesn’t mean being ego centric, inflated, rich, over the top,
or having the jump on a man or on anyone. That is not self esteem, that is,
to put it bluntly, a hole waiting for you to fall into. Self-esteem
means taking care of yourself and taking care of how others feel as well. We
sometimes get the first part right, and not the second part, taking care, or
caring about how others feel too. If we get the first part right, that is a
good start, but it’s selfish. And self-esteem to really work needs the
second, larger part. Caring about how he feels too. Now, here’s the big
secret. Why do you think men behave selfishly in bed? Answer, because he
doesn’t have enough self-esteem to care about you, too. He doesn’t care
about himself enough to love you as much as himself in bed.
He has low
self-esteem. What is the cure? The cure is to care about how he feels more
as a first step to showing him that he is going to get a lot more out of
this sexual encounter if he cares about you more. Result, his self-esteem
goes up. But this is not self-help for one-night-standers. These are long
haul relationships we are talking about. So if you are in it for the long
haul, then you need to get your self-esteem working. And his. It’s a
spiritual thing.
RULE
NUMBER FOUR:
EDUCATING HIM
INTO WHAT YOU NEED IN BED
One of the biggest
mistakes we make in bed with a man is that we think just because he has got
a cock and we have a vagina and the natural forces of sexual attraction know
that him inserting his cock into our vagina is natural and doesn’t really
need any education is something that has to change. Animals do it. Ask
yourself: a dog can do it. A horse can do it.
Instinct drives them
to do it. But do animals enjoy sex? Maybe, we will never know. But
even if they do, it isn’t the arty form it is for humans. My bet is that
men and women enjoy it far more than any animal. For animals it’s an
instinctual drive to procreate the species. For humans it is that too, and a
lot more. It is a way of relating on much more subtle levels. What we do
know is that in the animal kingdom a man has a disproportionately large cock
and the helmet end of it is so sensitive that it is designed for pleasure.
So apart from the instinctual drive to procreate the species as his
motivation force behind wanting to shag us is the PLEASURE PRINCIPLE. The
desire born of the need to satiate his sexual desire upon us, to get that
helmet at the end of his fiery shaft stimulated to the point of orgasm
inside a woman’s vagina. Then there is that little organ called the
clitoris, which we have. It takes much more stimulation than his helmet to
set it on fire but if he knew that the intensity of our orgasm was nine
times stronger than his, he would want to be a woman.
All women, if they are
honest with themselves accept that an orgasm experienced with a man’s cock
up you is a lot more wonderful than with, say a vibrator up you.
Germaine Greer, the thinking woman’s woman, even had to admit that is
true. Also, recent medical evidence shows that the small little pleasure
membrane we call the clitoris is not as small as we have been led to think.
It stretches back inside our vaginas a long, long way into our bodies and is
much longer than any man’s penis. Incredible but true. It was the last
great discovery of the twentieth century as a matter of fact! But because
it’s on the inside and under the skin it has taken “modern” medical
science three hundred years to discover the size of a woman’s clitoris.
Now why? Because the clitoris is designed for pure unadulterated
pleasure.
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